Grief and Loss

The following beautiful poem was shared on Facebook by Donna Ashworth. It beautifully and poignantly captures the feeling of grief and loss.
Donna's Facebook page is at: Ladies Pass It On

Art by Kenneth Crane Facebook link

YOU DON’T JUST LOSE SOMEONE ONCE - by Donna Ashworth
You lose them over and over,
sometimes many times a day.
When the loss, momentarily forgotten,
creeps up,
and attacks you from behind.

Fresh waves of grief as the realisation hits home,
they are gone.
Again.

You don’t just lose someone once,
you lose them every time you open your eyes to a new dawn,
and as you awaken,
so does your memory,
so does the jolting bolt of lightning that rips into your heart,
they are gone.
Again.

Losing someone is a journey,
not a one-off.
There is no end to the loss,
there is only a learned skill on how to stay afloat,
when it washes over.

Be kind to those who are sailing this stormy sea,
they have a journey ahead of them,
and a daily shock to the system each time they realise,
they are gone,
Again.

You don’t just lose someone once,
you lose them every day,
for a lifetime.
Donna Ashworth


Grief is the emotion we feel when we lose something we held dear to us. Grief happens when we lose a loved one, face financial loss, loss of a pet. Grief can occur during the ageing process, when a relationship breaks down, or a child leaves home. The length of time we experience grief for is as unique as the way we grieve. Depending on our personality, the culture we belong to, and the nature of your loss. On this page there are some videos to help in understanding grief.


One of the most challenging things to deal with in life is grief. Quest for Life provides a safe space where you can be with your grief, understand it more deeply and incorporate it into your life.


How mindfulness can help us work through grief


Understanding Grief


The Adventure of Grief: Dr Geoff Warburton at TEDxBrighton